15.4.13

I Am Woman

I’m one of the lucky girls, no, Prince Charming hasn’t shown up on his stupid white horse and swept me off my little ol’ feet, but that’s not what I’m after. I say I’m lucky because I was raised by parents who told me I could be anything I wanted. They never once told me I have to get married and have babies, they never told me I have to go to college, they left my future up to me. I was never made to believe that women are weak, my mom is a beast of a lady (in a dainty, lady like way) she is smart, independent and successful. A pretty great role model. My dad always stressed the importance of me being able to stand on my own two feet, never having to rely on “Prince Charming”.

I am thankful for that raising. What it didn’t prepare me for is that as a woman, I can be anything I want as long as I’m dressed modestly, don’t drink too much, and absolutely never leave my house with out a big strong male chaperone by my side. With all of the gang rape cases in the news lately the first thing addressed is always “what was she wearing? Was she drinking? Why was she at that party?” None of that matters. As a woman who has made some pretty stupid choices, I have been quite lucky. I am educated, strong, and full of common sense but I could have been any of those girls. I could have been Jane Doe in Steubenville, Rehtaeh Parsons in Nova Scotia, or Audrie Potts in California; any girl could be. They were all teenage girls that were victims of rape. If rape wasn’t enough, their photos were distributed all over the internet. Two of those girls killed themselves because they couldn’t handle the constant shaming.

Yes, women can be whatever we want to be, as long as we are dressed like nuns, sober all the time, and never leave home without a man we trust…oh wait even then we are at risk because in most rapes the victim knows the attacker. So I guess our culture says there’s only one thing woman can be…afraid.

That’s ridiculous and something needs to change.